June is my month to focus my blog on relationship coaching. I believe that the most important relationship is “SELF” and that all other relationships are a reflection of your relationship to yourself. I believe that outside relationships give us opportunities to practice treating the parts of ourself related to others with respect and love. It does not mean we have to agree. It just means that we get to practice loving our self with different levels of understanding and compassion.
How can you show more compassion, understanding and love in your relationships today?
Every career choice you make has consequences and sends signals or messages to those around you; your boss, co-workers, family, friends and the list goes on. Just like on social media, every thing you like, share and talk about add to the brand-personality you are creating in your social world.
What signals do you truly want to be sending to others through your career choices?
Our career is full of uncertainty, unpredictability and fickleness, because we are creating it each day anew. Just because we have experience in certain career fields, does not mean that we move in that direction with our choice of jobs.
Looking back at all the jobs you have had in your career, what is the most inconsistent thing you notice?
Involving all five senses, what’s the message for you in the inconsistency?
Tonight I am getting together with a bunch of coaches to discuss the development of an on-going Colorado Coaching EXPO. We will be talking about how we can best serve, educate and connect with the Colorado community as coaching professionals.
I would love to hear any and all ideas from my followers about what you would like to experience more of with coaching and/or professional coaches.
Today while driving in Ft. Collins, Colorado, USA I saw the sign for Valpak of N. Colorado & S. Wyoming in an office center, so I stopped in. WOW did my memories flow of my job as a sales representative at Valpak of Boise Idaho! Great memories of winning an award for being a top sales rep of small markets, going to Coupon University in Florida, and my gratefulness of learning to handle rejection. A career in sales is one of the greatest opportunities to learn to deal with rejection. Sales is certainly one of the longest careers so far in my life. I sold, Avon, Tupperware, John Deer Parts, Melaleuca, Mary Kay, and of course Valpak. I am so grateful for the lessons in handling rejection each of these jobs has given me. It certainly makes me a better coach.
How does sales fit into your current job?
What part has sales played in your career(s) to this point in your life?
How many decisions do you think you will make during your career life?
Of course, that question is impossible to answer correctly because no two people or careers are alike, but I bet your logical left brain is having a hay day with that question right now.
Today’s blog goes out in remembrance of the American Mathematician, John Nash, the only person to share receiving both the Nobel Prize and the Abel Prize only 6 days ago in Oslo from the King of Norway. John and his wife Alicia were killed together two days ago in a car accident. Russell Crowe played the role of John Nash in one of my favorite movies “It’s a Beautiful Mind.” I am intrigued by one of the things Nash was famous for – his research into Game Theory. Invented by John von Neumann, Game Theory is the study of strategic decision making. Because I have two upcoming Group Coaching Events in Colorado, USA that each includes 3hrs of Decision Making coaching, the tragedy ending of John Nash and his wife weighs heavy in my heart. Thank you, John Nash, for the incredible mathematical contributions you gave to humanity.
Game Theory combines mathematics, psychology, and philosophy together to enhance a person’s ability to reason and make decisions in our complex world. One Game Theory example is Prisoner’s Dilemma a cooperation strategy about two prisoners that end up worse off by not communicating nor cooperating with each other. There are several Game Theory models in career business and personal relationships where the payoff between two parties can be applied. Examples range from siblings cooperating to not tell on each other rather than being punished by parents all the way to competing businesses agreeing on the price range of like products and the payoffs involved. In career, the Prisoner’s Dilemma strategy could be applied in the area of the payoffs between you and your direct supervisors, or you and your employees for the cooperation of expectations in positions and work exchange.
Enough for now about Game Theory, I will end this blog with one fun strategic thinking question for decision making in a career.
If your career somehow involves the payment from tips, what amount of money should you keep visible to attract your maximum charity payoff?
Courage, determination and imagination! Three powers combine to give your career a jolt in the right direction. As you continue building your career, bring these three elements together by answering these questions and see what ignites for you.
What 3 ways do you feel you show courage in building your career?
What 3 ways do you feel you use determination in your career when the going gets tough?
Using your imagination, what are 2 ways you can bring determination and courage together to make your dream become the reality in your career?
With change comes ambiguity in full force. There is nothing clear, certain or controllable inside of this feeling. This uncomfortable state requires you to come to your center—that place of quiet. As you go into your center and just be with the uncomfortable, notice and observe rather than do or act, you give space. This space is what is necessary for things to move around and reorganize into a direction of action to take. There needs to be space for new things to happen.
Think of a change you are making and notice what comes up when you think about it. Then take one of the things that surface for you and bring it into your center. Bring it into the center of your thinking, into the center of your feeling and the center of your body and just surround it with your presence and love. Do nothing, just be with it and surround it with love. Then notice what transpires.
What do you notice about the thing that surfaced for you in your change?
What the message?
What do you notice that has already changes inside of you by doing the exercise?