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  • What causes you to conflict with others.
  • What values you base a majority of your decisions on.
  • Why you make the same mistakes over and over.
  • How you can improve your relationships with others.
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Today’s Takeaway from Free Virtual Coffeeshop Group Coaching – via ZOOM – 06 September 2020 is:

“The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched. They must be felt with the heart.”

Helen Keller

Today our coffeeshop coaching group topic centered around opening up to our emotions and allowing them to give us guidance without taking over our decision making. Emotional feelings can be scary; they can be hurtful, and they can be uncomfortable. We still should not close ourselves to these emotions. We alternatively can open up to these emotions, recognize them for what they are. We can practice allowing them to help us find direction instead of either denying them altogether or allowing them to take over the steering wheel off our lives. Emotions remind us, as so many times in our lives, that finding the right balance is the art of finding the right way.

When feeling strong emotions or out of control try asking:

  • What is this emotion expressing to me?
  • What inside of me needs to express itself?
  • What awareness of mine can I recognize in this?

If you didn’t notice an answer, repeat the same question, and try asking for the answer to come through pictures, words, feelings, sounds, tastes. Notice your intension when asking and listening.

Image of a coffee shop setting background with Coach Melody and the words Free Group Coaching Via-ZOOM Coffeeshop Coaching Virtual 06 September 2020

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Find answers, take actions, & get results – Coffeeshop Coaching!

Join me online via-ZOOM for my next Virtual Coffeeshop Group Coaching! It’s free! You help choose the topic and direct the group discussion by answering a few questions when you register. To register, click this link: 06 September 2020

  • Be prepared to share something you discover from the questions you answer when you register, and ask more questions to the group via chat during the ZOOM- Coffeeshop Coaching.
  • Think about what you would like to hold yourself accountable for, and your possible next step. A coaching journal is a great way to create accountability and track your success!
  • Open your mind and together let’s uncover new perspectives and valuable takeaway tools for your life!

Virtual Coffeeshop coaching is confidential while using a more relaxed and informal platform that being part of an online coaching group can provide, and can be done from the comfort of your home, no need to travel! We meet online via ZOOM over a cup of coffee, tea, or whatever is appropriate for your time zone. Every participant and Coach Melody will join from their respective current global locations which gives the event a very international touch. Diversity is an added twist of value as each of the international participants contribute from their specific approaches adding a variety of new perspectives. Perspectives are valuable in the coaching process for clarity, opening up and leaning into what’s new in any change process. This gives a great latitude in creating tools for change. These group coachings usually last 90 minutes, and they are FREE!

If you are struggling with big changes in your life, need to make a decision, or just need to be heard, coffeeshop coaching can be the perfect platform for you. Coaching is a productive relationship enabling YOU to:

  • Creatively explore solutions
  • Prevent self-sabotage
  • Take actions that move YOU forward
  • Achieve YOUR goals
  • Attain clarity in what YOU want

Life is meant for awesome adventures, good friends, great coaches, and LOTS of coffee!

Melody Taylor-Fliege

NOTE: If the link above does not work, copy and paste this link directly into your browser https://lifecoachingwithmelodyllc.as.me/coffeeshop-coaching-free-virtual-group or go directly to the booking page on my website and click on the Free Virtual Coffeeshop Group Coaching appointment. To sign up follow these steps: 1) click the registration link, 2) click the orange set time zone button, 3) choose date and click continue, 4) answer a few questions, 5) click the orange complete appointment button, 6) then you will see a confirmation page and receive an email with the ZOOM link, meeting ID, and password to be used when you join the meeting on Sunday.

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“If you’re searching for that one person that will change your life, take a look in the mirror.”

Unknown

You are WORTH IT!!

Three words we have all heard at least a thousand times.

You are worth it, but do you genuinely understand what that means?

It’s a beautiful reminder to us all that we have worth. You have reason and rarity. There is value in every one of us, including you. That is precious even on the days you might not feel it. You never depreciate in value.

Those words are there to remind you.

To all those reading this blog who feel unworthy or have ever felt like that, focus on what I’m about to say and repeat after me:

I’m worth it!

I am worth it!

Maybe that felt great, or perhaps that felt weird. Let’s go again:

First, take a deep breath and let it out.

Forget all criticism or self-doubts and silence all your fears—even the harshest words you say to yourself.

Do not doubt yourself!

This time, speak it louder, really loud!

I’m worth it!

I am worth it!

The next time you hesitate before going out to something you want; the next time you blush and brush-off a complement; the next time you doubt your place in the world, in the workplace, in your home, or in your own skin; say these words to yourself:

I’m worth it!

I am worth it!

I know you will always say it like you mean it. I know you will always say it from your true heart.

You are worth it because you are and always will be.

Young business woman thinking of her fears with quote, "The fears we don't face become our limits. Once we accept our limits, we go beyond them." -Robin Sharma

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“The fears we don’t face become our limits.
Once we accept our limits, we go beyond them.”

Robin Sharma

Breaking through limitations requires tending to yourself with patients, love, lots of self-nurturing like healthy foods, rest, and focused based input. Self-maintenance in these areas will help you get to the bottom of the things you need to change to go to your next level.

The passage of working through old programming is full of shadow elements like self-doubt, frustration, resentment, anger, even rage. What got you to where you are will not get you to where you want to go. Clearing up old programming requires a conscious and purposeful revisiting of past entanglements – facing your fears, accepting what is. “Accepting what is” gives you a choice to change. When you truly accept what you chose, what you did, many times, you will no longer need it because it is learned. It’s then time to forgive, come out of fear and resistance, and get back to love, joy, and personal power.

Whenever you find yourself in a provocative situation where you realize you’re triggered from any past survival fear, seize the moment! Take a few deep breaths and breath out of your ego-brain down into the truth of your heart-brain. Think from your heart. Speak from your heart. The heart is where you can let go of defending, needing to be right, and instead make a heart connection with others. When you listen from your heart when you speak from your heart, problems can be resolved quicker; solutions can be found faster because you are no longer isolated. Resisting, defending, and needing to be right all consume a lot of energy, because trying to force something is going against the flow of energy, like trying to swim upstream or against the current. Going with the flow allows you to see what’s coming more easily, and small efforts can change the direction of things in significant ways.

  • What is the last situation you remember being provoked or triggered?
  • What occurs when you apply the breathing technique above while remembering that situation?
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Posted by & filed under Change.

“Intention is the core of all conscious life. Conscious intention colors and moves everything.”

Hsing Yun

Change is all about transformation. Transformation is change in its organic form.

Every living tree moves the earth in its unique way according to the soil elements and the circumstances from the sprouting of the seed until the death of the tree. A tree can be transformed into a house, chair, canvas, book, fuel to stay warm, and a myriad of other things. We humans never stop changing from the moment we are conceived until our bodies are entirely decomposed. If change is elemental and constant, then what is so difficult about trying to change a habit, learning something new like a language, sport, or instrument? Is there a trick?

The intention is a trick at the heart of transformation, because in transformation, the beliefs get modified, so actions become natural; thus, the results are achieved. Consider each restrictive, sabotaging thought and the intention underneath it. Compare that with each expansive, loving thought and the intention underneath it. For example, when using manipulation, even one sentence can start with an intension of love and switch to the intention of blaming through a word like “but” or words that find fault.

The heart is an excellent truth monitor of our pure intention underneath our thoughts, actions, and the vision we hold about life. It’s essential to monitor your intention in a way that is more about noticing what your intention is telling you, and then choosing what you want to do from the new information you learn. The more mindful you become, the faster you will notice how quickly your intention can change, even mid-sentence or mid-thought. Learning to handle power and control with integrity lies with constantly monitoring your intention because at any given time, your intention can change, and no one may notice but you.

  • I challenge you to monitor your heart center’s honest intention when thinking, speaking (even not talking), and acting. You may be surprised by what transformations happen in your life!
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Today’s Takeaway from Free Virtual Coffeeshop Group Coaching – via ZOOM – 02 August 2020 is:

“Breathing into each moment what is needed and breathing out what is no longer necessary is natural with the breath. The trick of doing it for stability and balance requires utilizing all five elements; wood, fire, earth, metal, and water in perfect harmony.”

Melody Taylor-Fliege

Today’s coaching group utilized diversity to find one’s unique center, as many of these group coachings do. Even with many diverse topics, the struggles and challenges were similar, as if each person had a unique version of the same journey.

One coaching technique to find one’s center is merely breathing. As above, so below, even in complete chaos. Using the breath to find our center can help by breathing in yin-energy from Mother Earth and yang-energy from the light-love source bigger than self (whatever that may be religiously, or culturally for each individual). This technique uses the idea that we already do this, only now doing it with purpose. It’s as natural as breathing in oxygen and breathing out carbon dioxide, something we cannot help but doing with every breath we take.

Taking this commonsense idea and doing it with mindfulness breathing to center ourselves, can bring inner calm when we feel pressured to perform at a new job, in front of a group, or even a boring business meeting, or repetitive studying.

Expand the technique even further by applying a 5-Elements visualization breathing exercise of protection, taken from the topic of Dantian on ScienceDirect’s website, which has an excerpt from the first chapter of Sarah Pritchard’s Book Tui na: A manual of Chinese massage therapy, 2010 (also found on Amazon). Look in the section called Foundations and development of Tui na:

Five-element protection and the pillar of light.”

If this link does not work, copying and pasting the following link into your browser should do the trick. https://www.sciencedirect.com/topics/pharmacology-toxicology-and-pharmaceutical-science/dantian

If you’re not familiar with my 5-Elements coaching tools, check them out in the yellow section of my website.

5-Elements Fun Dice Coaching Tool
5-Elements Fun Dice Coaching Tool
Image of a coffee shop setting background with Coach Melody and the words Free Group Coaching Via-ZOOM Coffeeshop Coaching Virtual 02 August 2020

Posted by & filed under Coffeeshop Coaching.

Find answers, take actions, & get results – Coffeeshop Coaching!

Join me online via-ZOOM for my next Virtual Coffeeshop Group Coaching! It’s free! You help choose the topic and direct the group discussion by answering a few questions when you register. To register, click this link: 02 August 2020

  • Be prepared to share something you discover from the questions you answer when you register, and ask more questions to the group via chat during the ZOOM- Coffeeshop Coaching.
  • Think about what you would like to hold yourself accountable for, and your possible next step. A coaching journal is a great way to create accountability and track your success!
  • Open your mind and together let’s uncover new perspectives and valuable takeaway tools for your life!

Virtual Coffeeshop coaching is confidential while using a more relaxed and informal platform that being part of an online coaching group can provide, and can be done from the comfort of your home, no need to travel! We meet online via ZOOM over a cup of coffee, tea, or whatever is appropriate for your time zone. Every participant and Coach Melody will join from their respective current global locations which gives the event a very international touch. Diversity is an added twist of value as each of the international participants contribute from their specific approaches adding a variety of new perspectives. Perspectives are valuable in the coaching process for clarity, opening up and leaning into what’s new in any change process. This gives a great latitude in creating tools for change. These group coachings usually last 90 minutes, and they are FREE!

If you are struggling with big changes in your life, need to make a decision, or just need to be heard, coffeeshop coaching can be the perfect platform for you. Coaching is a productive relationship enabling YOU to:

  • Creatively explore solutions
  • Prevent self-sabotage
  • Take actions that move YOU forward
  • Achieve YOUR goals
  • Attain clarity in what YOU want

Life is meant for awesome adventures, good friends, great coaches, and LOTS of coffee!

Melody Taylor-Fliege

NOTE: If the link above does not work, copy and paste this link directly into your browser https://lifecoachingwithmelodyllc.as.me/coffeeshop-coaching-free-virtual-group or go directly to the booking page on my website and click on the Free Virtual Coffeeshop Group Coaching appointment. To sign up follow these steps: 1) click the registration link, 2) click the orange set time zone button, 3) choose date and click continue, 4) answer a few questions, 5) click the orange complete appointment button, 6) then you will see a confirmation page and receive an email with the ZOOM link, meeting ID, and password to be used when you join the meeting on Sunday.

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Today’s Takeaway from Free Virtual Coffeeshop Group Coaching – via ZOOM – 05 July 2020 is:

Today’s topic centered around freeing oneself from self-imposed or perceived oppression. You know the kind everyone has of self-judgment, self-criticism, and even those familiar to all of us physically restrained because of COVID-19 lockdowns.

“Faith is taking the first step even when you don’t see the whole staircase.”

Martin Luther King, Jr.

Today’s big question for our zoom breakout rooms was:

  • What can I DO TODAY to create for myself a feeling of empowerment, more self-responsibility, and independence around my topic and challenges?

One of the breakout groups addressed the question:

  • How can we make decisions about our true purpose without allowing too much outside interference, some of which is only perceived or imaginary?

Another breakout group exchanged thoughts and ideas around the limitations imposed on our freedoms or liberties forced by COVID-19 restrictions.

Both groups found solutions through developing awareness. It helps us to be merely aware of the presence of these outside influences on our decision-making process to limit their impact to a degree in which they are rather having the function of helpful advice instead of a restrictive limitation. To cope with the outside restrictions imposed by the pandemic, it can be beneficial to become aware of how everyone is affected and shares responsibility for the greater whole.

It’s helpful to have a reminder to ask ourselves:

  • What is my role in this crisis (any crisis), and WHAT CAN I DO Today and even RIGHT NOW about it?

Oh, and listen for my “I Can’t Meditation” that came from today’s group coaching.

Image of a coffee shop setting background with Coach Melody and the words Free Group Coaching Via-ZOOM Coffeeshop Coaching Virtual 05 July 2020

Posted by & filed under Coffeeshop Coaching.

Find answers, take actions, & get results – Coffeeshop Coaching!

Join me online via-ZOOM for my next Virtual Coffeeshop Group Coaching! It’s free! You help choose the topic and direct the group discussion by answering a few questions when you register. To register, click this link: 05 July 2020

  • Be prepared to share something you discover from the questions you answer when you register, and ask more questions to the group via chat during the ZOOM- Coffeeshop Coaching.
  • Think about what you would like to hold yourself accountable for, and your possible next step. A coaching journal is a great way to create accountability and track your success!
  • Open your mind and together let’s uncover new perspectives and valuable takeaway tools for your life!

Virtual Coffeeshop coaching is confidential while using a more relaxed and informal platform that being part of an online coaching group can provide, and can be done from the comfort of your home, no need to travel! We meet online via ZOOM over a cup of coffee, tea, or whatever is appropriate for your time zone. Every participant and Coach Melody will join from their respective current global locations which gives the event a very international touch. Diversity is an added twist of value as each of the international participants contribute from their specific approaches adding a variety of new perspectives. Perspectives are valuable in the coaching process for clarity, opening up and leaning into what’s new in any change process. This gives a great latitude in creating tools for change. These group coachings usually last 90 minutes, and they are FREE!

If you are struggling with big changes in your life, need to make a decision, or just need to be heard, coffeeshop coaching can be the perfect platform for you. Coaching is a productive relationship enabling YOU to:

  • Creatively explore solutions
  • Prevent self-sabotage
  • Take actions that move YOU forward
  • Achieve YOUR goals
  • Attain clarity in what YOU want

Life is meant for awesome adventures, good friends, great coaches, and LOTS of coffee!

Melody Taylor-Fliege

NOTE: If the link above does not work, copy and paste this link directly into your browser https://lifecoachingwithmelodyllc.as.me/coffeeshop-coaching-free-virtual-group or go directly to the booking page on my website and click on the Free Virtual Coffeeshop Group Coaching appointment. To sign up follow these steps: 1) click the registration link, 2) click the orange set time zone button, 3) choose date and click continue, 4) answer a few questions, 5) click the orange complete appointment button, 6) then you will see a confirmation page and receive an email with the ZOOM link, meeting ID, and password to be used when you join the meeting on Sunday.

image of light at the end of the tunnel

Posted by & filed under #COVID19.

“Backup is my computer’s shepherd, My data shall not want. It lets me download software with good pleasure, knowing my data is untroubled like still waters. It restores my system, It lets me surf the paths of cyberspace for information’s sake. Yea, though I walk through the Silicon Valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil: For my backup system is on standby, My backup software and online backup, they comfort me. They prepare me a fresh backup in the presence of mine enemies, They anoint my head with peace, my cpu runneth over. Surely goodness and security shall follow my data all the days of my life, and my data will continue to live on forever.”

T.E. Ronneberg

What has COVID-19 taught you about chaos? Practicing skills to reframe chaos is always a good practice because where you are today in life comes from all the chaotic choices and decisions you previously made. COVID-19 has undoubtedly upgraded the world to a new level of virtual reality and adaptability. There is no going back, only forward. Great for those who have adapted along the way; terrible for those who have no desire to learn new things and insist on keeping things “as they are” or were. Choosing to change is more comfortable than being forced to change. Now, with virtually everything online, there is more opportunity, both positive and negative. Being comfortable with ambiguity can be practiced simply by choosing each day to do one thing that scares you because it requires you to step out of your comfort zone, which can feel a bit chaotic. Remember that you are a human being in the chaos of life.

  • Be prepared, back up that computer today, change passwords often, take an extra moment to check sources to prevent misinformation.
  • Be patient, keeping a steady pace.
  • Be gentle and encouraging.
  • Be kind to your heart and others.
  • Be a source of comfort and a stable force to those stressed around you.
  • Be diligent in completing tasks without delay, creating fewer regrets.
  • Be mindful of yourself, others, and the big picture around you.
  • Be compassionate, creating a culture of compassion.
  • Be happy and share your contagious smile with everyone.
  • Be alert to blessings, count them often, and aloud both for gratitude and positive subconscious programming.
  • Be content, accepting what is, letting go of unhealthy attachments to things, people, and expectations.
  • Be the change the world is seeking.