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  • What causes you to conflict with others.
  • What values you base a majority of your decisions on.
  • Why you make the same mistakes over and over.
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The COVID-19 crisis led to a situation, in which many of us found ourselves held up with a partner, who we normally hardly get to see. Then we shared living quarters, work-space kitchen 24/7, this is still the case for some. Crisis like this can be stressful for a relationship and it can also create time and space for long overdue relationship maintenance. Productive partnerships are not only limited to romantic relationships, but also professional business colleges, joint causes; any time you join with another person or people a partnership is formed. The thing I love about this topic is how it relates to groups and team coaching which is all about the united purpose, creating value for all stakeholders, outside-in and future-back.

Here is a few tips and strategies of how to co-create, embrace, and expand partnerships to be more productive! And if you have any ideas or suggestions about productive partnerships, please share them by clicking here, or simply go to my blog and comment on one of my blogs around this topic.

Tip 1: Balance is a core ingredient of every relationship.

Do you feel you are contributing more than your partner and expect more from him or her? Do you think you are falling short? The only way to find out if both partners truly are experiencing a balanced relationship is through communication. If you have the feeling of imbalance, you should address it in a frank but loving way. If you feel the topic could be sensitive, create a setting of comfort and trust, and don’t choose a time when one of you is experiencing excessive stress. Sometimes opening to a topic that has been undisturbed but also unsatisfying for too long can lead to a surprising result. You may experience that your partner shares your feelings about the balance in the relationship. You may, however experience, that the perceptions about this topic are very different. In that case, you need to have an open discussion and formulate reasonable and creative solutions. Sometimes the imbalances are based on faulty assumptions about, what the other partner wants, and imbalances can be equalized easily. In other cases, some shortcomings require both sides to make concessions and compromises. However, shouldn’t a functioning relationship be worth trade-offs?

Tip 2: Allow each other to be who you are if you choose to stay together.

Many times, the honeymoon phase of a relationship doesn’t sharpen our senses for imperfections. However, when the newness wears off, we might discover characteristics that aren’t quite as attractive as the traits that let us choose this specific partner in the first place. When this leads to severe irritations, it is time to find out which characteristics on both sides are simply habits that can be changed easily in the interest of the relationship; and which parts are actual components of a personality that demanding change would be expecting from the partner to give up authenticity. Examples of differences would be laziness in the household, which one partner may be willing to modify in the interest of harmony. If, however, a partner who is passionate about traveling or motorbiking is asked to give up those passions to join the other partner in gardening in order to share more hobbies, this might demand something that is incompatible with the unique personality and would create unhealthy results for the relationship. Again, this requires open, loving communication in good faith on both sides. In a functioning relationship, it should be possible to get clarity about habits and actual character traits.

Tip 3: Find the good, increase the positive.

While I am far from denying the value of applying and accepting healthy criticism, any crisis is a time in which I recommend finding the good in what your partner does. Being locked up together is not a good time for “who left the cap off the toothpaste?” discussions. Research shows that couples in stressful situations are getting through the situation better when they have trust that their partner is there for them. This doesn’t mean that you have to solve each other’s problems or even try to do that. The trick is to listen to each other carefully, reflect that you understand, and have mutual empathy. Listening can create enough feelings of trust and faith in each other to turn the pandemic into a time in which your relationship flourishes.

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Today’s Takeaway from Free Virtual Coffeeshop Group Coaching – via ZOOM – 07 November 2021 is:

“Every weakness contains within itself a strength.”

Shusaku Endo

Today’s coffeeshop coaching showed how our strengths often reveal themselves through our worries, insecurities, and weaknesses, especially when we feel safe enough to express inner truths. There is something about saying things aloud that enables us to hear something new or finally make sense of an old message. Worrying about something we feel as our weakness can block us from seeing how much of strength it is. The truth is that weakness is almost always the shadow side of strength. Too much of anything becomes a bad thing. Understanding strengths requires experiencing weaknesses. Weakness is where the struggle is that makes us reach for change. Change is almost never a smooth process. It’s usually more of an obstacle course that requires us to deal with things in an original way, with creativity and an open mind. You may not be giving yourself enough credit; push forward with kindness and more love.

  • If you look at three of your strengths, what do you notice about how they may have been created?

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Find answers, take actions, & get results – Coffeeshop Coaching!

Join me online via-ZOOM for my next Virtual Coffeeshop Group Coaching! It’s free! You help choose the topic and direct the group discussion by answering a few questions when you register. To register, click this link: 07 November 2021

  • Be prepared to share something you discover from the questions you answer when you register, and ask more questions to the group via chat during the ZOOM- Coffeeshop Coaching.
  • Think about what you would like to hold yourself accountable for, and your possible next step. A coaching journal is a great way to create accountability and track your success!
  • Open your mind and together let’s uncover new perspectives and valuable takeaway tools for your life!

Virtual Coffeeshop coaching is confidential while using a more relaxed and informal platform that being part of an online coaching group can provide, and can be done from the comfort of your home, no need to travel! We meet online via ZOOM over a cup of coffee, tea, or whatever is appropriate for your time zone. Every participant and Coach Melody will join from their respective current global locations which gives the event a very international touch. Diversity is an added twist of value as each of the international participants contribute from their specific approaches adding a variety of new perspectives. Perspectives are valuable in the coaching process for clarity, opening up and leaning into what’s new in any change process. This gives a great latitude in creating tools for change. These group coachings usually last 90 minutes, and they are FREE!

If you are struggling with big changes in your life, need to make a decision, or just need to be heard, coffeeshop coaching can be the perfect platform for you. Coaching is a productive relationship enabling YOU to:

  • Creatively explore solutions
  • Prevent self-sabotage
  • Take actions that move YOU forward
  • Achieve YOUR goals
  • Attain clarity in what YOU want

Life is meant for awesome adventures, good friends, great coaches, and LOTS of coffee!

Melody Taylor-Fliege

NOTE: If the link above does not work, copy and paste this link directly into your browser https://lifecoachingwithmelodyllc.as.me/coffeeshop-coaching-free-virtual-group or go directly to the booking page on my website and click on the Free Virtual Coffeeshop Group Coaching appointment. To sign up follow these steps: 1) click the registration link, 2) click the orange set time zone button, 3) choose date, see the time, and click continue, 4) answer a few questions, 5) click the orange complete appointment button, 6) then you will see a confirmation page and receive an email with the ZOOM link, meeting ID, and password to be used when you join the meeting on Sunday.

Posted by & filed under Personal Growth, Personal Values, Self-Improvement.

The idea that a pandemic could be a factor helping you to get motivated feels counterintuitive. How can COVID-19 possibly help motivate anyone? Doesn’t it lock us into our homes, forces inactivity, and unhealthy eating habits on us? Turn us into grouchy couch potatoes? Well, as usual, it’s up to you, after all.

Tip 1: Assessing the positive against the negative.

Knowing how much you’re willing to give up and/or sacrifice to get the thing you are striving for expresses just how much motivation you have towards it, how important it is to you. Writing a list of positives and negatives about what you want can help create clarity that leads to understanding how real your intentions are. For many, the more intrinsic driven reasons to do something, the more authentic the motivation is and the more likely of continually following through to attainment.

Tip 2: Take what COVID-19 gives you to transform fear into motivation.

Allow COVID-19 frustrations to help you surrender during demotivational moments that allow you to look inside with new strength. Look for what you may have been avoiding and dare to face it from love rather than avoiding fear of the unknown. These experiences provide some of the most significant learning and self-expansion moments as they help us look in corners and hidden spaces within that we have not previously known or dared to look. Use this crisis to transform fear into a better you, more motivated on the other side.

Tip 3: Using assessments to clarify motivational drivers

The Core Values Index™ (CVI) Assessment interprets your innate motivational drivers, which influence every decision, judgment, and action you take, and lays it out in-depth in a personalized report. Much different then personality and behavioral-based assessments such as Myers-Briggs, Hogan, and others, the CVI Assessment takes a step deeper, focusing on identifying what satisfies or fulfills you about the work you do, rather than on determining whether or not you are capable of doing the work.

Tip 4: Manage motivation with a Coach.

Motivation can come by eating some dopamine-releasing chocolate, or less calorie consuming body poses, like holding yourself in power positions while standing or sitting. Both are proven to work at least temporarily. For longer-term motivational management, consider hiring a coach online. Coaching can help you pinpoint your unique demotivational triggers and help you create plans, tools, and strategies against those triggers that work for you. Plus, the safe space created through deep listening, non-judgment, and creative ways of looking at repeated patterns through new eyes that coaching offers can provide the peace of mind needed to get through tough times like our current crisis. You’re not alone.

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Today’s Takeaway from Free Virtual Coffeeshop Group Coaching – via ZOOM – 03 October 2021 is:

“Ambiguity rules the middle spaces of the change cycle, where the clash of extremes reveals balance.”

Melody Taylor-Fliege

In today’s coffeeshop coaching, we were talking about the challenge changes can mean for our life and how change can provoke challenge. Through all these changes and challenges it is important to stay focused in a variety of ways. Primarily it is important that we take care of our health and sanity by allowing ourselves to be humans and not expect the impossible from ourselves. Another important piece to remember is to not measure ourselves by the big long-term goal rather break it up into achievable shorter-mid-term goals, basically a bench-marking which allows us to see progress instead of experiencing overwhelm. 

  • Have you ever tried to break the way to your long-term goal into steps that you can realistically accomplish?

This can also create opportunity to give yourself credit and feel accomplished along the way, as life is but a journey.

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Find answers, take actions, & get results – Coffeeshop Coaching!

Join me online via-ZOOM for my next Virtual Coffeeshop Group Coaching! It’s free! You help choose the topic and direct the group discussion by answering a few questions when you register. To register, click this link: 03 October 2021

  • Be prepared to share something you discover from the questions you answer when you register, and ask more questions to the group via chat during the ZOOM- Coffeeshop Coaching.
  • Think about what you would like to hold yourself accountable for, and your possible next step. A coaching journal is a great way to create accountability and track your success!
  • Open your mind and together let’s uncover new perspectives and valuable takeaway tools for your life!

Virtual Coffeeshop coaching is confidential while using a more relaxed and informal platform that being part of an online coaching group can provide, and can be done from the comfort of your home, no need to travel! We meet online via ZOOM over a cup of coffee, tea, or whatever is appropriate for your time zone. Every participant and Coach Melody will join from their respective current global locations which gives the event a very international touch. Diversity is an added twist of value as each of the international participants contribute from their specific approaches adding a variety of new perspectives. Perspectives are valuable in the coaching process for clarity, opening up and leaning into what’s new in any change process. This gives a great latitude in creating tools for change. These group coachings usually last 90 minutes, and they are FREE!

If you are struggling with big changes in your life, need to make a decision, or just need to be heard, coffeeshop coaching can be the perfect platform for you. Coaching is a productive relationship enabling YOU to:

  • Creatively explore solutions
  • Prevent self-sabotage
  • Take actions that move YOU forward
  • Achieve YOUR goals
  • Attain clarity in what YOU want

Life is meant for awesome adventures, good friends, great coaches, and LOTS of coffee!

Melody Taylor-Fliege

NOTE: If the link above does not work, copy and paste this link directly into your browser https://lifecoachingwithmelodyllc.as.me/coffeeshop-coaching-free-virtual-group or go directly to the booking page on my website and click on the Free Virtual Coffeeshop Group Coaching appointment. To sign up follow these steps: 1) click the registration link, 2) click the orange set time zone button, 3) choose date, see the time, and click continue, 4) answer a few questions, 5) click the orange complete appointment button, 6) then you will see a confirmation page and receive an email with the ZOOM link, meeting ID, and password to be used when you join the meeting on Sunday.

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Staying power is needed now more than ever! Yearning to look away or be complacent will no longer work! The Covid19, coronavirus, holding no prejudice against its prey, has plenty of persistence. Working together has never been so important; and also never so difficult. We all must participate together equally, shifting out of stillness into action and recognizing our individual part. Practicing equanimity, small things like washing our hands, not touching our faces, and social distancing, so when bigger, more drastic measures are called for we can do it easier without panic.

Tip 1: Starting small by training weak areas first

Building your endurance for maximum personal performance begins with taking inventory of the areas of your life and rating how strong and how weak you feel they are, then identifying the most vulnerable areas and start with them. Training sensitive areas by setting small goals for change and follow through is essential for long-term endurance.

Tip 2: The give-and-take balance

Giving out energy for the things you are striving for must be in balance with receiving in what nourishes us and helps us rejuvenate after stress. That does not mean stopping; especially now, self-isolation offers the opportunity to indulge in what you love, get caught-up, organized, or Spring Cleaning like never before! It’s that creative thing we do where we get lost and forget what was so stressful at work. Spending time with loved ones or people that matter most (during these hard times that may be on the phone or via Skype) is just as important as healthy eating habits and plenty of rest. Too much time in any single area can quickly throw off life balance, creating exhaustion and making endurance impossible.

Tip 3: Acceptance of “what is” can nurture endurance

Acceptance releases what is no longer necessary and helps us get past resistance to what is underneath our fears of what we seek. When we quit resisting and give up, we are playing the dual game of a winner and loser–nobody wins, rather everyone loses. When we surrender, we choose to accept and honor the part of us that is telling us to let go and rest to find balance. Resting is a place of stillness where we can listen for the next signal to take action. Many times this is mistaken for a message to stop and quit doing, which can indicate defeat and a giving up. If we hold onto until we give up, what we are holding onto is the last role we played before the defeat, some act of survival. Acceptance is breaking the illusion of the fear of what we want, and like in the eye of a storm, just listening in stillness in the middle of ‘the busy’ for what’s next to show its self. It is a little like awakening quickly from a place of meditation after receiving an answer to our next step.

Tip 4: Manage and build endurance with a Coach

Consider hiring a coach online. Coaching can be tremendously helpful when figuring out how to manage and even increase endurance. It can help you identify both strong and weak areas of your life, then help you implement strategies and offer you tools to strengthen your weaker areas as well as detect the tools you already possess but haven’t used enough to build up endurance. A coach helps you hold yourself accountable for what it is that you want to achieve, and when the going gets tough, you’re not alone. Having someone to report back to about each step can be enough sometimes to make you do that one more thing so you can tell your coach of your accomplishment or what you learned.

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Today’s Takeaway from Free Virtual Coffeeshop Group Coaching – via ZOOM – 05 September 2021 is:

“Our true reality is in our identity and unity with all life.”

Joseph Campbell

“Continue to be yourself because in the end that’s what people will remember about you.”

Uknown

In today’s group coffeeshop coaching, our shared experiences led us straight to the topic of identity. Whether it is forced inactivity, career changes based on choices or circumstances, it all makes us confront our identity. Our SELF is more than a chosen identity, like a profession, career, or other activity, which is always only one expression of our true self. Looking at the totality of our circumstances and embracing how we are expressing ourselves while opening to the fact how much more we truly are will help us to accept change, however scary or uncomfortable it might seem at the time.

  • What is on the other side of my fear?
  • How do I trust that what is before me will lead me to my next best step?
  • What truly happens when I trust the timing of things?

The intake questions for my zoom coffeeshop coachings are always intriguing to read as people from all over the world sign up for my 1st Sunday group coaching each month. The way I set up the intake questions allows the participants to create the topic each time. So I never really know what the next coffeeshop coaching will discover until it is happening. I love a great mystery! Don’t you?

From the multiple intake questions, I create a word cloud of participants’ important words. And to set the tone of the coaching, I also create an anonymous sheet listing the many topics, challenges, and questions to get the most out of this coaching for everyone. This is another part I love, because of the many images, emotions, and curiosities that get sparked when I bring the individual pieces together for the group. Coaching is not about fixing; it is about discovering together new possibilities, creating new tools to combat challenging situations, finding new ways to relieve stress, or whatever is weighing you down!

If you’ve never tried one of my zoom Coffeeshop Group Coachings, sign up today! What are you waiting for? They are free, do it now!

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Find answers, take actions, & get results – Coffeeshop Coaching!

Join me online via-ZOOM for my next Virtual Coffeeshop Group Coaching! It’s free! You help choose the topic and direct the group discussion by answering a few questions when you register. To register, click this link: 05 September 2021

  • Be prepared to share something you discover from the questions you answer when you register, and ask more questions to the group via chat during the ZOOM- Coffeeshop Coaching.
  • Think about what you would like to hold yourself accountable for, and your possible next step. A coaching journal is a great way to create accountability and track your success!
  • Open your mind and together let’s uncover new perspectives and valuable takeaway tools for your life!

Virtual Coffeeshop coaching is confidential while using a more relaxed and informal platform that being part of an online coaching group can provide, and can be done from the comfort of your home, no need to travel! We meet online via ZOOM over a cup of coffee, tea, or whatever is appropriate for your time zone. Every participant and Coach Melody will join from their respective current global locations which gives the event a very international touch. Diversity is an added twist of value as each of the international participants contribute from their specific approaches adding a variety of new perspectives. Perspectives are valuable in the coaching process for clarity, opening up and leaning into what’s new in any change process. This gives a great latitude in creating tools for change. These group coachings usually last 90 minutes, and they are FREE!

If you are struggling with big changes in your life, need to make a decision, or just need to be heard, coffeeshop coaching can be the perfect platform for you. Coaching is a productive relationship enabling YOU to:

  • Creatively explore solutions
  • Prevent self-sabotage
  • Take actions that move YOU forward
  • Achieve YOUR goals
  • Attain clarity in what YOU want

Life is meant for awesome adventures, good friends, great coaches, and LOTS of coffee!

Melody Taylor-Fliege

NOTE: If the link above does not work, copy and paste this link directly into your browser https://lifecoachingwithmelodyllc.as.me/coffeeshop-coaching-free-virtual-group or go directly to the booking page on my website and click on the Free Virtual Coffeeshop Group Coaching appointment. To sign up follow these steps: 1) click the registration link, 2) click the orange set time zone button, 3) choose date, see the time, and click continue, 4) answer a few questions, 5) click the orange complete appointment button, 6) then you will see a confirmation page and receive an email with the ZOOM link, meeting ID, and password to be used when you join the meeting on Sunday.

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Today’s Takeaway from Free Virtual Coffeeshop Group Coaching – via ZOOM – 01 August 2021 is:

“There are no great limits to growth because there are no limits of human intelligence, imagination, and wonder.”

Ronald Reagan, 40th U.S. President

I enjoy the surprise each coffeeshop coaching holds. Every one of these free group coachings is unique and full of so many different ways of doing things and experiencing life. There is always lots of inspiration, growth, and newness. I would say today’s main focus was about pushing through the illusion of a block and feeling stuck. It’s interesting how quickly things can change with perspective and what a little space, fun, laughter, and lightness can do to a person or situation. I love witnessing people from many places globally meeting in these coachings with diverse topics, experiences, and ways of viewing life that directly help each other find new perspectives and next steps. Today was another great day in the coaching world, and I can’t wait to see you in the next group coffeeshop coaching!

“Hiring myself a coach is giving myself a gift to grow with, stretch with, change with. Coaching helps me to know myself better, see new directions, find new paths, uncover great treasures, like talents and abilities I didn’t even know I have and some that I forgot I have. I find patterns and a system in the many choices I’ve made. I learn and create new ways to distance myself from my emotions that temporarily block my view. My limitations become walls that move and adjust according to the perspectives I have in place – change my perspective, change my space. With coaching, I have learned to replace and transpose darkness into light, negative into positive, stuck into movement, stop into start and begin again with new hope, new passion, new fire. Coaching is a repeated gift that is new each time I do it. It’s one way I hold myself accountable and dare more than do by myself. Both live and virtual, coaching is connection, presence, and space where I can be witnessed, supported, and never alone. I’m grateful I found such a gift that I can give to myself and others alike. So next time you’re looking for that perfect gift, try gifting coaching!”

–Anonymous