Today’s Takeaway from BestOF Group Coaching -Beijing China – 21 November 2019 is:
“Out of clutter, find simplicity.”
The 5-Elements can help you break through the Great Wall obstacle between you and your objectives in life. Many times, the barriers between your current position and where you want to be appear indestructible, yet are so fragile that you could pierce through them by applying the slightest flick of your wrist or change in thought. Identifying and describing this magic “flick” is what coaching is supposed to be assisting you with. A simple application of the ages old Chinese 5-Elements concept of finding balance can do the trick for you. As everything is connected and works with each other and can also work against each other in the process of change. The 5-Elements (wood, fire, earth, metal, water) stemming from Chinese philosophy show how everything is connected, revealing cycles and patterns in every experience if you know what to look for. Using simplicity and common sense, the 5-Elements can be a practical coaching tool helping you figure out where you are in the cycle; therefore, what might come next.
We were a group of coaching enthusiasts during my final volunteer coaching as a member of the diplomatic community in China, during which I applied the best of my Coffeeshop Coaching. I utilized inspiration from how the 5-Elements have shown up in my life, allowed me to come to a full circle and witness incredible achievements of inspired and courageous participants. I am so proud, you allowed me to be your coach in this significant period and at this point! With my goodbyes I am opening a new chapter of coaching and from my heart welcome all of you to be a part of it. I am in the process of developing ways of reaching the next level of my coaching while staying engaged with China and the international community globally.
Considering the coaching you have experienced with me, think about your personal aspirations for the coming year, your own specific plan of achievement; how much will you utilize coaching – with me or any coach of your choosing? Remember that YOU are the first person responsible for you! Go to my scheduling page and book your appointment today or email me. It’s that easy!
A few responses from Coffeeshop Coaching clients when asked; What has been the best (most effective, fun, easy, etc.) coaching tool or coaching exercise you remember from our coachings?
Laura – get paper and pen out before engaging in talks with partner about any sort of planning! A relationship saver!
Susanne 何 沐灵 Hé Mùlíng – Regarding goals: Where might you be settling for less?
Mint – 1) Be at present and imagine the future goal you want to succeed and stepping into that moment. Tune yourself into it, and come back to the present. Finally, find the solution you have when the time comes that you feel struggles, the tool that keeps you move toward your goal. 2) Write down what is troubling you, to release emotion and keep the distance from it. 3) Self-talk, say it out loud to yourself, whether to cherish gratification or the dialog between thoughts. This exercise is helping you to find the balance from within. 4) Ask this question, What does…mean to me? Ex. Bills, Money, etc. to find your true meaning and notice how you react to it on a daily basis. And create a new perspective that serves you well. 5) Chunk down the big task to little steps. By doing this, it keeps you from draining the energy. And see it as many possibilities to succeed.
Giannina – Sharing your values through the use of a short story while having the rest jotting things down. Sometimes it’s useful to see what I transmit.
Today’s takeaway from Free Coffeeshop Group Coaching – Beijing, China – 12 November 2019 is:
“One must marry one’s feelings to one’s beliefs and ideas. That is probably the only way to achieve a measure of harmony in one’s life.”
Today’s Coaching Takeaway from the Solana-Starbucks Group Coaching: Figuring out where you are and how to bring about a balance that helps you move forward and brings you to the next phase of the cycle is an ongoing process that we all face. It’s all about change. Change is balancing the internal with the external or the external with the internal. The push-pull (推拿 Tuīná), the back and forth, the up and down; everything is connected and works with each other and can also work against each other in the process of change. The 5-Elements (wood, fire, earth, metal, water) stemming from Chinese philosophy shows how everything is connected, revealing cycles and patterns in every experience if you know what to look for. Using simplicity and common sense, the 5-Elements can be a practical coaching tool helping you figure out where you are in the cycle; therefore, what might come next.
What might you be resisting right now in the change you face?
Where is the balance in this moment?
What can you learn right now from your current experience before moving to the next?
Today’s Takeaway from Globerweb and DNB Diplomatic Network Beijing Group Coaching – Beijing, China – 05 November 2019 is:
“Balance, peace, and joy are the fruit of a successful life. It starts with recognizing your talents and finding ways to serve others by using them.”
I had the opportunity to share my coaching with participants from the Diplomatic Community in China to jointly work on breaking through barriers, overcoming obstacles, and making use of your full potential. The overarching topic was advancing your career while being abroad. Together as part of a diplomatic community, we tried on the utilization of the 5 Elements Concept to overcome obstacles through utilization of resources all around us. Many of our perceived obstacles are weaker or less real than they appear. The event was helpful in gaining insight how to avoid complaining about the diverse challenges of living abroad and instead embracing a multitude of cultures and their resources; creating synergy out of variety.
What major challenge is your situation being posted abroad putting before you right now?
What could you do to master the difficult first step? Or your current step?
As the 5-Elements (wood, fire, earth, metal, and water) harmonize and regulate each other, where is your balance? Sleep, exercise, food, social…
“The word ‘happiness’ would lose its meaning if it were not balanced by sadness.”
“Admitting is always a good thing. Especially admitting to yourself what you have been feeling. While it is (at times) a shock to notice that we are holding anger, resentment, despair, grief, etc.. It is also a very good thing to do because when you touch hidden emotions they transform and become allies in awakening and awareness rather than burdens to carry forward.”
How am I finding balance in this moment?
What is my heart telling me I need for balance?
How is my current situation helping me to rewire old patterns that are no longer useful?
How am I expressing my love and light to others in a way that creates balance?
“The more you do, the more you can do; and the more you can do, the more you want to do; and the more you want to do, the more you do.”
Ruby Lott Mitchell, Mother of 15 children
We are living in a time of tremendous change. Sometimes things are changing so fast we can’t keep up. Adapting to your surroundings; adjusting to create a balance between what is inside of you to what is happing in the world around you leads to more self-awareness. More self-awareness leads to more natural adaptability. Adapting to change is more comfortable and more Expansive than resisting until being forced to change. There is nothing so exhausting as resistance. Stress is a side-effect of resisting what is… the intensity is connected to how much you are resisting the current moment.
What are you resisting in your life?
What is awakening inside of you?
How are you expanding the expressions of love in your life?
“The first rule of kindness is to be kind to yourself. Leave footprints of kindness wherever you go.”
Take time to listen even more earnestly to your intuitive self. Would-of, could-of, should-of can be quite destructive self-dialogue. Looks can be deceiving because what lies beneath is where the real story is happening. Integrity, self-truth, and self-love can melt away your fears.
What would it look like if you decided to make this day a day where you are fully present, slow down, and learn to pay attention to what is less obvious?
If money was not a problem, if no one’s feeling would be hurt, and I could have my honest heart’s desire, what do I want? How does it serve me and humanity?
“You can’t use up creativity. The more you use the more you have.” –Maya Angelou
We all have vulnerabilities that can sidetrack us from getting things done and lure us into self-sabotage. The greatest tool of self-sabotage is fear. Creativity can unlock the fear by allowing us to play with options. Creatively questioning our way around self-sabotage can help redirect our focus and still get things done.
“Be kind. Be thoughtful. Be genuine. But most of all, be thankful.” –Author Unknown
You want to expand yourself past your current boundaries into a bigger, better version of yourself. Self-expression comes in a myriad of forms, but authentic expression can be awkward to articulate when you are unclear in your direction. Coaching is one resource supporting you through active listening, reflecting, and powerful questions that can help you find expressive tools so you can better share what you feel inside with the external world.
What other resources can you use to help you find authentic expression?
“You can only grow if you’re willing to feel awkward and uncomfortable when you try something new.” –Brian Tracy
Change is inevitable, and it can be challenging and difficult; forgiving and letting go, changing habits, jobs, or countries. Most of the time, we are the cause and need to change and do things differently. Resistance usually makes change more difficult, while acceptance and surrendering can make for a more pleasant transforming process. Using a piece of paper can help distance your thoughts and create more clarity. Understanding how to listen to your personal values can help you find direction. Facing each obstacle deliberately, one at a time, or only focusing on what is before you right now. These are a few tools that can help you find solutions in moments of high-stress.
What would help you right now to activate your intuition?
What was your first thought in answering that question? It is probably the best thing to do.
What else has helped you keep a clear and logical mind while pursuing your goals and dreams?