Image of a coffee shop setting background with Coach Melody and the words Free Group Coaching Via-ZOOM Coffeeshop Coaching Virtual 02 August 2020

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Find answers, take actions, & get results – Coffeeshop Coaching!

Join me online via-ZOOM for my next Virtual Coffeeshop Group Coaching! It’s free! You help choose the topic and direct the group discussion by answering a few questions when you register. To register, click this link: 02 August 2020

  • Be prepared to share something you discover from the questions you answer when you register, and ask more questions to the group via chat during the ZOOM- Coffeeshop Coaching.
  • Think about what you would like to hold yourself accountable for, and your possible next step. A coaching journal is a great way to create accountability and track your success!
  • Open your mind and together let’s uncover new perspectives and valuable takeaway tools for your life!

Virtual Coffeeshop coaching is confidential while using a more relaxed and informal platform that being part of an online coaching group can provide, and can be done from the comfort of your home, no need to travel! We meet online via ZOOM over a cup of coffee, tea, or whatever is appropriate for your time zone. Every participant and Coach Melody will join from their respective current global locations which gives the event a very international touch. Diversity is an added twist of value as each of the international participants contribute from their specific approaches adding a variety of new perspectives. Perspectives are valuable in the coaching process for clarity, opening up and leaning into what’s new in any change process. This gives a great latitude in creating tools for change. These group coachings usually last 90 minutes, and they are FREE!

If you are struggling with big changes in your life, need to make a decision, or just need to be heard, coffeeshop coaching can be the perfect platform for you. Coaching is a productive relationship enabling YOU to:

  • Creatively explore solutions
  • Prevent self-sabotage
  • Take actions that move YOU forward
  • Achieve YOUR goals
  • Attain clarity in what YOU want

Life is meant for awesome adventures, good friends, great coaches, and LOTS of coffee!

Melody Taylor-Fliege

NOTE: If the link above does not work, copy and paste this link directly into your browser https://lifecoachingwithmelodyllc.as.me/coffeeshop-coaching-free-virtual-group or go directly to the booking page on my website and click on the Free Virtual Coffeeshop Group Coaching appointment. To sign up follow these steps: 1) click the registration link, 2) click the orange set time zone button, 3) choose date and click continue, 4) answer a few questions, 5) click the orange complete appointment button, 6) then you will see a confirmation page and receive an email with the ZOOM link, meeting ID, and password to be used when you join the meeting on Sunday.

Image of a coffee shop setting background with Coach Melody and the words Takeaway From Free Group Coaching Via-ZOOM Coffeeshop Coaching Virtual 05 July 2020

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Today’s Takeaway from Free Virtual Coffeeshop Group Coaching – via ZOOM – 05 July 2020 is:

Today’s topic centered around freeing oneself from self-imposed or perceived oppression. You know the kind everyone has of self-judgment, self-criticism, and even those familiar to all of us physically restrained because of COVID-19 lockdowns.

“Faith is taking the first step even when you don’t see the whole staircase.”

Martin Luther King, Jr.

Today’s big question for our zoom breakout rooms was:

  • What can I DO TODAY to create for myself a feeling of empowerment, more self-responsibility, and independence around my topic and challenges?

One of the breakout groups addressed the question:

  • How can we make decisions about our true purpose without allowing too much outside interference, some of which is only perceived or imaginary?

Another breakout group exchanged thoughts and ideas around the limitations imposed on our freedoms or liberties forced by COVID-19 restrictions.

Both groups found solutions through developing awareness. It helps us to be merely aware of the presence of these outside influences on our decision-making process to limit their impact to a degree in which they are rather having the function of helpful advice instead of a restrictive limitation. To cope with the outside restrictions imposed by the pandemic, it can be beneficial to become aware of how everyone is affected and shares responsibility for the greater whole.

It’s helpful to have a reminder to ask ourselves:

  • What is my role in this crisis (any crisis), and WHAT CAN I DO Today and even RIGHT NOW about it?

Oh, and listen for my “I Can’t Meditation” that came from today’s group coaching.

Image of a coffee shop setting background with Coach Melody and the words Free Group Coaching Via-ZOOM Coffeeshop Coaching Virtual 05 July 2020

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Find answers, take actions, & get results – Coffeeshop Coaching!

Join me online via-ZOOM for my next Virtual Coffeeshop Group Coaching! It’s free! You help choose the topic and direct the group discussion by answering a few questions when you register. To register, click this link: 05 July 2020

  • Be prepared to share something you discover from the questions you answer when you register, and ask more questions to the group via chat during the ZOOM- Coffeeshop Coaching.
  • Think about what you would like to hold yourself accountable for, and your possible next step. A coaching journal is a great way to create accountability and track your success!
  • Open your mind and together let’s uncover new perspectives and valuable takeaway tools for your life!

Virtual Coffeeshop coaching is confidential while using a more relaxed and informal platform that being part of an online coaching group can provide, and can be done from the comfort of your home, no need to travel! We meet online via ZOOM over a cup of coffee, tea, or whatever is appropriate for your time zone. Every participant and Coach Melody will join from their respective current global locations which gives the event a very international touch. Diversity is an added twist of value as each of the international participants contribute from their specific approaches adding a variety of new perspectives. Perspectives are valuable in the coaching process for clarity, opening up and leaning into what’s new in any change process. This gives a great latitude in creating tools for change. These group coachings usually last 90 minutes, and they are FREE!

If you are struggling with big changes in your life, need to make a decision, or just need to be heard, coffeeshop coaching can be the perfect platform for you. Coaching is a productive relationship enabling YOU to:

  • Creatively explore solutions
  • Prevent self-sabotage
  • Take actions that move YOU forward
  • Achieve YOUR goals
  • Attain clarity in what YOU want

Life is meant for awesome adventures, good friends, great coaches, and LOTS of coffee!

Melody Taylor-Fliege

NOTE: If the link above does not work, copy and paste this link directly into your browser https://lifecoachingwithmelodyllc.as.me/coffeeshop-coaching-free-virtual-group or go directly to the booking page on my website and click on the Free Virtual Coffeeshop Group Coaching appointment. To sign up follow these steps: 1) click the registration link, 2) click the orange set time zone button, 3) choose date and click continue, 4) answer a few questions, 5) click the orange complete appointment button, 6) then you will see a confirmation page and receive an email with the ZOOM link, meeting ID, and password to be used when you join the meeting on Sunday.

image of light at the end of the tunnel

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“Backup is my computer’s shepherd, My data shall not want. It lets me download software with good pleasure, knowing my data is untroubled like still waters. It restores my system, It lets me surf the paths of cyberspace for information’s sake. Yea, though I walk through the Silicon Valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil: For my backup system is on standby, My backup software and online backup, they comfort me. They prepare me a fresh backup in the presence of mine enemies, They anoint my head with peace, my cpu runneth over. Surely goodness and security shall follow my data all the days of my life, and my data will continue to live on forever.”

T.E. Ronneberg

What has COVID-19 taught you about chaos? Practicing skills to reframe chaos is always a good practice because where you are today in life comes from all the chaotic choices and decisions you previously made. COVID-19 has undoubtedly upgraded the world to a new level of virtual reality and adaptability. There is no going back, only forward. Great for those who have adapted along the way; terrible for those who have no desire to learn new things and insist on keeping things “as they are” or were. Choosing to change is more comfortable than being forced to change. Now, with virtually everything online, there is more opportunity, both positive and negative. Being comfortable with ambiguity can be practiced simply by choosing each day to do one thing that scares you because it requires you to step out of your comfort zone, which can feel a bit chaotic. Remember that you are a human being in the chaos of life.

  • Be prepared, back up that computer today, change passwords often, take an extra moment to check sources to prevent misinformation.
  • Be patient, keeping a steady pace.
  • Be gentle and encouraging.
  • Be kind to your heart and others.
  • Be a source of comfort and a stable force to those stressed around you.
  • Be diligent in completing tasks without delay, creating fewer regrets.
  • Be mindful of yourself, others, and the big picture around you.
  • Be compassionate, creating a culture of compassion.
  • Be happy and share your contagious smile with everyone.
  • Be alert to blessings, count them often, and aloud both for gratitude and positive subconscious programming.
  • Be content, accepting what is, letting go of unhealthy attachments to things, people, and expectations.
  • Be the change the world is seeking.
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Today’s Takeaway from Free Virtual Coffeeshop Group Coaching – via ZOOM – 07 June 2020 is:

“Our ability to reach unity in diversity will be the beauty and the test of our civilization.”

Mahatma Gandhi

Finding balance is about going inside, being authentic, and living in the now moment. Learning from others and your own experiences and applying all that you learn to practical actions leads to genuine wisdom. This wisdom will help you master any challenge in a new situation or an evolving situation like our current COVID-19 pandemic.

Gaining insight and understanding perspective on a culture, be it a national, regional, faith-based, or company culture is crucial to master challenges successfully entering a new situation in a new place with new people. The ability to open up to attitudes, surroundings, ways of doing that are different from what we are used to, is an underlying key competence to thrive in any new situation. This includes understanding culture and cultures in a broader context, like showing how people take pride in who they are and deserve respect. We do not walk in their shoes and cannot have their inside expertise. However, we can learn a lot about, what is unique about the new culture in another country, a different geographic region, or merely an enterprise’s, company’s or government agency’s distinct culture.

Change, ambiguity, even navigating a pandemic crisis involves opening up to learning and working on a more in-depth understanding. At the same time, we have to be aware of balance outside and inside. Working on opening up to the culture of others can help us to become aware of and stand up for the respect we deserve ourselves from others and from self.

  • How does learning about or living in a new country, culture, language, and way of being in the world change you? And what is the challenge in it?
  • How well do you accept new patterns and new opportunities with Confidence?
  • How can you utilize both division and unity to make your influence have a more positive impact?
  • How can you better accept, forgive, and let go to heal without fearing the healing process?
Image of middle age couple back to back eyes closed - Dare to heal relationship wounds

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“Although the world is full of suffering, it is also full of the overcoming of it.”

Helen Keller

Relationships, including healthy relationships, tend to have their difficult past their dark secrets, their painful memories, we “better not touch.” Couples with good relationship and communication skills may dare to touch some old wounds and find overdue healing and peace. The COVID-19 lockdown created a quiet time; perhaps your relationship has been waiting for. Craving to address a topic that has long been lying under the surface, only coming up on occasion, when stress and arguments lead to a flare-up, uncovering wounds we tried to soothe but never really healed.

When you want to use your time to finally address each other’s pain, make sure you provide for certain parameters: create an atmosphere of calm and trust, utilizing your joint favorite tools, time, and space to establish such a setting. Assure each other of your mutual love and trust and commit to accepting that the other’s intention is to address their own pain, not to blame and accuse. And then follow up on this commitment during the conversation!

If necessary, while you are speaking and notice your partner getting upset, slow down, and repeat your commitment. If you are the one getting upset, don’t let the trigger come up, instead request for the calming and reassuring you need right now. Even better, say to your partner, if you are capable of expressing it, that you are dealing with your own trigger and that you know, your partner never intended to hurt you. You don’t have to hold back with your memory of getting hurt, but also truthfully acknowledge your partner’s pain.

When your partner has spoken, reflect, what you heard, don’t turn to ego, accusation, and prematurely pointing to your own hurt. You get your turn for your own story, which you will tell frankly without hiding your hurt and without assigning blame. If you stick to these rules and your relationship has a solid basis, it shouldn’t be hard work to come to empathy, understanding, and love. After all, you picked each other once, and you chose to stay together until now. This doesn’t mean there are no painful feelings or regrets -even anger coming up. However, this time, the one who matters most to you is truly present to share your pain, and therein lies enormous potential for healing- for each of you and for the relationship.

  • How well do you practice reflective listening?
  • Try googling word phrases like reflective listening, couples communication, how to talk to your partner, etc., then practice some of the things you read.
  • Can you name two topics you and your partner have worked through during your COVID-19 time together?
  • Can you name three things you love most about your partner? Now tell your partner!
People discussing Lead By Example

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“Orders come from customers, not from leaders.”

Joyce Rachelle

Leading by example, sounds like a stereotype, but reality tells us that it neither just comes naturally nor is the advice followed universally. It demands some self-discipline and awareness from the leader to always recall actively “what behavior would I expect from my leader in the same situation?” It also demands a high degree of consciousness of what impact the example that I am setting as a leader could have on others. However, consciousness can be trained and become second nature. It will come with the double reward of having a positive impact on the team’s productivity as well as with the satisfying feeling of being consistent and plausible.

  • How well do you walk your talk?
  • What are two things you can do today to increase your self-awareness?
  • How willing are you to change, learn, and grow as a leader?
Image of a coffee shop setting background with Coach Melody and the words Free Group Coaching Via-ZOOM Coffeeshop Coaching Virtual 07 June 2020

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Find answers, take actions, & get results – Coffeeshop Coaching!

Join me online via-ZOOM for my next Virtual Coffeeshop Group Coaching! It’s free! You help choose the topic and direct the group discussion by answering a few questions when you register. To register, click this link: 07 June 2020

  • Be prepared to share something you discover from the questions you answer when you register, and ask more questions to the group via chat during the ZOOM- Coffeeshop Coaching.
  • Think about what you would like to hold yourself accountable for, and your possible next step. A coaching journal is a great way to create accountability and track your success!
  • Open your mind and together let’s uncover new perspectives and valuable takeaway tools for your life!

Virtual Coffeeshop coaching is confidential while using a more relaxed and informal platform that being part of an online coaching group can provide, and can be done from the comfort of your home, no need to travel! We meet online via ZOOM over a cup of coffee, tea, or whatever is appropriate for your time zone. Every participant and Coach Melody will join from their respective current global locations which gives the event a very international touch. Diversity is an added twist of value as each of the international participants contribute from their specific approaches adding a variety of new perspectives. Perspectives are valuable in the coaching process for clarity, opening up and leaning into what’s new in any change process. This gives a great latitude in creating tools for change. These group coachings usually last 90 minutes, and they are FREE!

If you are struggling with big changes in your life, need to make a decision, or just need to be heard, coffeeshop coaching can be the perfect platform for you. Coaching is a productive relationship enabling YOU to:

  • Creatively explore solutions
  • Prevent self-sabotage
  • Take actions that move YOU forward
  • Achieve YOUR goals
  • Attain clarity in what YOU want

Life is meant for awesome adventures, good friends, great coaches, and LOTS of coffee!

Melody Taylor-Fliege

NOTE: If the link above does not work, copy and paste this link directly into your browser https://lifecoachingwithmelodyllc.as.me/coffeeshop-coaching-free-virtual-group or go directly to the booking page on my website and click on the Free Virtual Coffeeshop Group Coaching appointment. To sign up follow these steps: 1) click the registration link, 2) click the orange set time zone button, 3) choose date and click continue, 4) answer a few questions, 5) click the orange complete appointment button, 6) then you will see a confirmation page and receive an email with the ZOOM link, meeting ID, and password to be used when you join the meeting on Sunday.

Who is to Blame? handwritten on a white background

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“When you blame others, you give up your power to change.”

Dr. Robert Anthony

COVID-19 has created a global lockdown forcing humanity to stop, stay still, reset, and rise up into something new. As the world again opens up, stresses are over-the-top for many. Despite the intense challenges and desire to blame, each day gives ample opportunities to grow, learn, and change. The challenge can be staying focused on what to do and not do because of the circumstances rather than blaming another person. Solutions can be more difficult to find when you blame others for your experience because blame twists the situation. Blame does not allow authentic self-responsibility.

How can you stand up against something without becoming the very thing you are fighting against? Staying grounded with so much anger, rage, and aggression all around is difficult, and doable. You may think you see the whole picture, but COVID-19 is squeezing humanity in a way that doesn’t ease the tension. So if you look deeper underneath the chaotic illusion for a more beautiful perspective, what can you find that nourishes, breathes new life, creates more love? There is no limit to what is possible even in chaotic times like we find ourselves only choice, and choice comes with consequences. Take what is given to you and utilize it in the most compassionate way that you can to expand the love, hope, and generosity!

  • What is happening for you right now?
  • How is this a repeat of something familiar in your life, trying to get your attention?
  • Which of your values does this bring up, and why?
  • How have you grown beyond where you were before COVID-19?
  • How are you rising from the COVID-19 squeeze?
  • What if this situation required you to walk through security screening, but rather than a metal-detector, you walk through a blame-detector? What lights up for you?
  • If you apply new thinking compared to your old ways of thinking before COVID-19, what does the solution look like?
  • How can you move away from your worries? What can you focus on that will bring you more stability?
Cartoon of car at high speed hitting an old man and birds. The purpose is to show speed bumps in life are meant to slow you down for surprises

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“Life’s road is full of twists and turns and obstacles of varying degrees. Some speed bumps look far more dangerous than they actually are. Some speed bumps can rip the bottom off your vehicle. Even so, speed bumps are meant to temporarily slow you down to a safer speed and prepare you to be able to stop for surprises. If you’re experiencing one of Life’s speed bumps, curiously look for what it’s trying to show you!”

Melody Taylor-Fliege

We live in a diverse world that comes with multi-cultural exchange and interaction, which goes beyond any level that could be imagined before the existence of the Internet. Soon the world as a whole will reach beyond the 5G speed allowing the transfer of currency, goods, and language at ever faster speeds and quantities. The COVID-19 crisis really creates not much more than a temporary speed bump in these developments. What that means, no one can really know. How does one prepare? Lean into it with self-awareness, know yourself, read lots of books, prepare to reinvent yourself repeatedly. Learn how to be comfortable in chaos and ambiguity and know what lies and truths actually feel like for you – how each resonates within your internal filters like your heart core center. The COVID-19 slowed the busy-ness of our world into a stillness that has allowed a lot of environmental healing and showed us what can happen when we stop for a moment, work together, and restructure how we do things. Many people in the fast-pace past felt alone and disconnected, although they were not alone. Social distancing helped many in self-isolation to re-connect relationships at a deeper level, some for better, some for worse. It has helped many people deal with relationship issues, including self-related issues they were too busy before to look at and address. In the process, it has restructured relationships at every level, personal, professional, global. It already looks unlikely that we will return to “how it was.” We can call this virtual upgrade the new normal because most entities that adapted through virtual connection will continue these implementations even after COVID-19 is far behind us.

  • What can you develop during COVID-19 to help you better create the new normal after COVID-19?
  • What is your Personal Development Plan that helps you connect with more integrity while serving the greater whole?
  • How is this COVID-19 temporary speed bump helping you develop?
  • How do truths and lies resonate differently for you?