“You must be ready to burn yourself in your own flame; how could you rise anew if you have not first become ashes.”
Change is difficult, even painful because it requires the death of a part of you that is no longer useful in order to birth a new you – an element that does not yet exist. While old habits are hard to break, choosing to change can be easier than being forced from some outside circumstances like disease, natural disaster, or some other crisis.
What are you willing to give up to get what you want?
What are three choices you have right now?
Breathing out of your head and down into your heart, what truth do you find?
“While stressing over the past creates depression and worrying about the future creates anxiety, right now is all you need for peace which ignites happiness, good health, and prosperity. Wishing you a New Year full of “Right-Now” moments!”
Rats are resourceful, persistent, quick-thinkers, and easily adapt to circumstances. They are constantly on the alert for opportunities to gather and collect, yet without the worry of what others think about them. The cycle of the Chinese zodiac calendar begins with the rat bringing in new beginnings and transformative energy full of opportunity to advance, expand, and prosper. This is a year to dare more with respect to humanity and the environment. Wake up to be more accountable for the impact individual choices have at the global level. Focus on charting a course forward that is in alignment with personal values and the values we all share for our future together. Find ways to optimize your internal resources by focusing on what gives you satisfaction and more fulfillment. Use this drive to create and sustain success not only for self but also to help those around us.
Rats can be 进退首鼠, jìn tuì shǒu shǔ: “Hesitant to advance or retreat.” Meaning: Indecisive. While they can be reserved, if pushed, they can also attack with an extremely aggressive force. This year might be a year to use highly constructive words in our communication, especially in advancing our new ideas into the world. Although indecisive when analyzing a situation, rats are great problem solvers and figure out a solution at high speed and move quickly once they focus. Reminding us to stress less about what others think, focus on our goals, and “fail, forward, fast!” Meaning take action quickly – hurry and get what does work out of the way to get on to what will work.
Use the rat energy of this year to creatively find solutions to the challenges you face and open up to new perspectives of how each challenge is enabling you to expand into a stronger, better version of you! Give yourself space to learn and develop through the opportunities the Year of the Rat offers you, have fun along the way, and enjoy life!
In what ways can you better adapt to new, innovative ways of moving forward?
How can you continuously look for opportunities without being overstressed?
How can you better focus on your goals without neglecting your essential relationships?
How can you best use the rat’s ability to focus on priorities?
How can you use the rat’s problem solving to better face this year’s challenges?
How can you take ancient wisdom and apply it in your modern life in a way that is compatible with our planet’s evolution and to humanity’s best course forward?
Today’s takeaway from Free Coffeeshop Group Coaching – Idaho Falls, ID USA – 15 December 2019 is:
“Life is a balance of holding on and letting go.”
Life is full of opportunities to change; let go of the past, move into something new. Change is uncomfortable even when we choose to embrace the unfamiliar. It takes courage to choose change. It also takes courage to move through unanticipated change from natural disasters to internal diseases that force us to make choices we may not be ready to make or may regret later. Coaching tools help us to change our perspective and see things for what they are rather than repeated story loops dictated by the past. One of the beautiful things about coaching is co-creating change navigating tools that are customized to one’s personal situation along life’s journey. Tools that help distance us from the difficult emotions in change help us navigate change and make better decisions. Today we used common sense and simplicity from the 5-Elements coaching tool to bring more balance to the emotions attached to past events.
What is a favorite coaching tool for you?
How have you applied simplicity to move ahead?
Which coaching tool have you tried that you would you describe as the most efficient?
Today’s takeaway from Free Coffeeshop Group Coaching – Loveland, CO USA – 11 December 2019 is:
“Coaching is like rearranging the pieces of the puzzle just enough to create a new perspective that ignites new thinking. New thinking applied to old patterns can produce new impulses for action.”
There is nothing like enjoying a fresh cup of coffee at the base of The Rocky Mountains in a café full of people interested in change! And when modern devices are not cooperating for a PowerPoint presentation, it’s time to dance in the moment! This coffeeshop coaching, meant to focus on the 5-Elements coaching tool top down, turned it upside down! As the group mingled asking each other questions using colors, words, and experiences to dive deeper into discussions relevant to personal coaching topics, everyone walked away with something new!
When your plan goes awry how well do you dance in the moment?
What resources surround you even now against what perplexes you?
How can an open mind keep you from freezing up and help you stay creative?
Today’s Takeaway from BestOF Group Coaching -Beijing China – 21 November 2019 is:
“Out of clutter, find simplicity.”
The 5-Elements can help you break through the Great Wall obstacle between you and your objectives in life. Many times, the barriers between your current position and where you want to be appear indestructible, yet are so fragile that you could pierce through them by applying the slightest flick of your wrist or change in thought. Identifying and describing this magic “flick” is what coaching is supposed to be assisting you with. A simple application of the ages old Chinese 5-Elements concept of finding balance can do the trick for you. As everything is connected and works with each other and can also work against each other in the process of change. The 5-Elements (wood, fire, earth, metal, water) stemming from Chinese philosophy show how everything is connected, revealing cycles and patterns in every experience if you know what to look for. Using simplicity and common sense, the 5-Elements can be a practical coaching tool helping you figure out where you are in the cycle; therefore, what might come next.
We were a group of coaching enthusiasts during my final volunteer coaching as a member of the diplomatic community in China, during which I applied the best of my Coffeeshop Coaching. I utilized inspiration from how the 5-Elements have shown up in my life, allowed me to come to a full circle and witness incredible achievements of inspired and courageous participants. I am so proud, you allowed me to be your coach in this significant period and at this point! With my goodbyes I am opening a new chapter of coaching and from my heart welcome all of you to be a part of it. I am in the process of developing ways of reaching the next level of my coaching while staying engaged with China and the international community globally.
Considering the coaching you have experienced with me, think about your personal aspirations for the coming year, your own specific plan of achievement; how much will you utilize coaching – with me or any coach of your choosing? Remember that YOU are the first person responsible for you! Go to my scheduling page and book your appointment today or email me. It’s that easy!
A few responses from Coffeeshop Coaching clients when asked; What has been the best (most effective, fun, easy, etc.) coaching tool or coaching exercise you remember from our coachings?
Laura – get paper and pen out before engaging in talks with partner about any sort of planning! A relationship saver!
Susanne 何 沐灵 Hé Mùlíng – Regarding goals: Where might you be settling for less?
Mint – 1) Be at present and imagine the future goal you want to succeed and stepping into that moment. Tune yourself into it, and come back to the present. Finally, find the solution you have when the time comes that you feel struggles, the tool that keeps you move toward your goal. 2) Write down what is troubling you, to release emotion and keep the distance from it. 3) Self-talk, say it out loud to yourself, whether to cherish gratification or the dialog between thoughts. This exercise is helping you to find the balance from within. 4) Ask this question, What does…mean to me? Ex. Bills, Money, etc. to find your true meaning and notice how you react to it on a daily basis. And create a new perspective that serves you well. 5) Chunk down the big task to little steps. By doing this, it keeps you from draining the energy. And see it as many possibilities to succeed.
Giannina – Sharing your values through the use of a short story while having the rest jotting things down. Sometimes it’s useful to see what I transmit.
Today’s takeaway from Free Coffeeshop Group Coaching – Beijing, China – 12 November 2019 is:
“One must marry one’s feelings to one’s beliefs and ideas. That is probably the only way to achieve a measure of harmony in one’s life.”
Today’s Coaching Takeaway from the Solana-Starbucks Group Coaching: Figuring out where you are and how to bring about a balance that helps you move forward and brings you to the next phase of the cycle is an ongoing process that we all face. It’s all about change. Change is balancing the internal with the external or the external with the internal. The push-pull (推拿 Tuīná), the back and forth, the up and down; everything is connected and works with each other and can also work against each other in the process of change. The 5-Elements (wood, fire, earth, metal, water) stemming from Chinese philosophy shows how everything is connected, revealing cycles and patterns in every experience if you know what to look for. Using simplicity and common sense, the 5-Elements can be a practical coaching tool helping you figure out where you are in the cycle; therefore, what might come next.
What might you be resisting right now in the change you face?
Where is the balance in this moment?
What can you learn right now from your current experience before moving to the next?
Today’s Takeaway from Globerweb and DNB Diplomatic Network Beijing Group Coaching – Beijing, China – 05 November 2019 is:
“Balance, peace, and joy are the fruit of a successful life. It starts with recognizing your talents and finding ways to serve others by using them.”
I had the opportunity to share my coaching with participants from the Diplomatic Community in China to jointly work on breaking through barriers, overcoming obstacles, and making use of your full potential. The overarching topic was advancing your career while being abroad. Together as part of a diplomatic community, we tried on the utilization of the 5 Elements Concept to overcome obstacles through utilization of resources all around us. Many of our perceived obstacles are weaker or less real than they appear. The event was helpful in gaining insight how to avoid complaining about the diverse challenges of living abroad and instead embracing a multitude of cultures and their resources; creating synergy out of variety.
What major challenge is your situation being posted abroad putting before you right now?
What could you do to master the difficult first step? Or your current step?
As the 5-Elements (wood, fire, earth, metal, and water) harmonize and regulate each other, where is your balance? Sleep, exercise, food, social…
“The word ‘happiness’ would lose its meaning if it were not balanced by sadness.”
“Admitting is always a good thing. Especially admitting to yourself what you have been feeling. While it is (at times) a shock to notice that we are holding anger, resentment, despair, grief, etc.. It is also a very good thing to do because when you touch hidden emotions they transform and become allies in awakening and awareness rather than burdens to carry forward.”
How am I finding balance in this moment?
What is my heart telling me I need for balance?
How is my current situation helping me to rewire old patterns that are no longer useful?
How am I expressing my love and light to others in a way that creates balance?
“The more you do, the more you can do; and the more you can do, the more you want to do; and the more you want to do, the more you do.”
Ruby Lott Mitchell, Mother of 15 children
We are living in a time of tremendous change. Sometimes things are changing so fast we can’t keep up. Adapting to your surroundings; adjusting to create a balance between what is inside of you to what is happing in the world around you leads to more self-awareness. More self-awareness leads to more natural adaptability. Adapting to change is more comfortable and more Expansive than resisting until being forced to change. There is nothing so exhausting as resistance. Stress is a side-effect of resisting what is… the intensity is connected to how much you are resisting the current moment.
What are you resisting in your life?
What is awakening inside of you?
How are you expanding the expressions of love in your life?