Image of Tijuana Mexico with words Coffeeshop Coaching Takeaway from Tijuana Mexico Monday 15 July 2019

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Today’s Coffeeshop Coaching takeaway from Tijuana Mexico is:

“Life is meant for awesome adventures, good friends, great coaches, and LOTS of coffee!” – Melody Taylor-Fliege

Topic: What do sombreros, zebras, and opera in the street have in common?

Mexico’s famous Baja Peninsula border town of Tijuana offers many great coaching perspectives! Depending on your timing, you can experience a mind-numbingly horrific border wait perspective or an easy-crossover perspective. Be creative! Tijuana is an art and design capital filled with amazing colors, styles, and architecture. Going-with-the-flow perspective could be an obvious one. Then there is a culture perspective like “Opera in the Street” that is a street fair combined with opera. There is the non-discriminating random-potholes perspective for tipsy and sober people alike and can be non-forgiving in causing discomfort. Gastro parks, “a must eat experience,” are a food truck park set up offering delicious Mexican breakfast, coffee, soups, seafood and more. They can test your decisive and indecisive abilities. A gastro park perspective lays the groundwork to the importance of tapping into multiple resources for significant decisions. Zebras (a donkey with black stripes painted on it) have been a tradition for 100 years in Tijuana, providing the strips, black-n-white balance, or carrying-a-load perspectives. There is a red light district where it’s also ok to buy and smoke weed with your after-hours beer offering a “relax, let go, and enjoy!” perspective. Food and drink perspectives come in the flavors of “Taco Alley,” street tacos or the famous “Caesar Salad,” invented by an Italian in Tijuana during Prohibition. Even better a craft beer stress relief perspective of straying from west coast styles and instead experimenting with new flavors and techniques in crafting beer—never know what you might discover! Beach perspectives range from sombreros-n-sunglasses to mouth-watering seafood or the peculiar perspective where the border wall ends into the ocean.

  • What are the potholes in your path? And what can they teach you?
  • If your current challenge were an Opera in the street, what is the storyline?
  • Zebras are a big part of the picture in Tijuana. What perspective can they bring to life?
  • What role does time play in your crossover – your current transition?
  • If your current decision were food, which food would it be?
  • How can you better go-with-the-flow or dance-in-this-moment?
Image of Taipei Taiwan with words Coffeeshop Coaching Takeaway from Taipei-Taiwan China Saturday 13 July 2019

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Today’s Coffeeshop Coaching takeaway from Taipei-Taiwan China is:

“Life is meant for awesome adventures, good friends, great coaches, and LOTS of coffee!” – Melody Taylor-Fliege

Topic: What is your WiFi Confucianist Mantra?

Taipei, a prosperous island metropolis made on modern wealth; producing and researching electronics is the forte; offering free public WiFi to visitors and residents alike. Connection and transparency offer great perspectives to analyze all your relationships. One of the worlds tallest skyscrapers, Taipei-101, provides a tall and robust perspective. Strong enough to withstand earthquakes and typhoons, yet accessible for an impressive bird’s eye view perspective at 1,667 feet (508 meters) can help to distance you from a situation. There’s a 19th Century Confucius Temple from the Qing Dynasty to offer you a Confucianist perspective. A UNESCO World Heritage Site, the Dalongdon Baoan Temple with beautiful stone and wood carvings give a lions-and-dragons perspective.

  • How connected and transparent are you in your relationships?
  • What impressions can you get from 1,667 feet (508 meters) above your current issue?
  • How are you strong, tall, and accessible? And what does it mean to you?
  • What would the famous Chinese philosopher and teacher Confucius say about what you’re currently facing?
  • What are your lions and dragons? And what can they teach you?
  • “He who knows all the answers has not been asked all the questions.” –Confucius. What is one more question you can ask yourself right now?
  • What is your WiFi Confucianist Mantra?
Image Beijing China Financial District with words Takeaway From Beijing China Thursday 11 July 2019 Coffeeshop Coaching

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Today’s takeaway from Free Coffeeshop Group Coaching – Beijing, China – 11 July 2019 is:

“Positivity can happen at all times. Even trying times such as these. There is a moment when your external actions are what you can control. Inside you feel what you feel. You cannot deny those feelings without them becoming toxic and unhealthy. There is a difference between being so aware and knowing what you feel and knowing that what you feel is not real. When you know and recognize that you are in reaction, then you have more control and you are at choice. Then you choose to stay positive even when you are consciously irritated or upset. You get to choose to not dump your upset on others. Especially those people that it is not their fault. Stay present. Deal with what is up. Stay honest with what you feel and know that you always have a choice as to how you react.” –Suzanne Wagner.

Image Beijing China Solana and Chaoyang Park with words Takeaway from Beijing China Tuesday 09 July 2019 Coffeeshop Coaching

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Today’s takeaway from Free Coffeeshop Group Coaching – Beijing, China – 09 July 2019 is:

“The wind might cause a kite to rise, but what keeps it up there is the fact that somebody on the ground has a steady hand. You have to hold steady to your values – your integrity. It’s your anchor. You let go of that… well, it isn’t long before your kite comes crashing down.” –Mark Victor Hansen and Robert G. Allen

It’s tempting to look at the outside and find verification that you’re worth something. Looking to the inside and seeing that what you believe in (which is what your values are) is in line with what you are doing, could be a much better way to find out that you’re following your authentic path.

  • How am I enough right now?
  • And how are my values establishing that I am enough?
Image Beijing China Financial District with words Takeaway From Beijing China Thursday 04 July 2019 Coffeeshop Coaching

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Today’s takeaway from Free Coffeeshop Group Coaching – Beijing, China – 04 July 2019 is:

“I’m not in this world to live up to your expectations and you’re not in this world to live up to mine.” –Bruce Lee

Most of us expect far too much from ourselves without giving ourselves credit for the many things we are doing right. Distinguishing the difference between outside expectation and self-imposed expectation can be difficult and suck the life out of you. Finding a reference point within to focus on, like values, can help you get real, get grounded, and find your way through change.

  • What is your internal reference point to create stability in limbo?
Image Beijing China Solana and Chaoyang Park with words Takeaway from Beijing China Tuesday 02 July 2019 Coffeeshop Coaching

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Today’s takeaway from Free Coffeeshop Group Coaching – Beijing, China – 02 July 2019 is:

“The whole essence of Zen consists in walking along the razor’s edge of Now – to be so utterly, so completely present that no problem, no suffering, nothing that is not who you are in your essence, can survive in you. In the Now, in the absence of time, all your problems dissolve. Suffering needs time; it cannot survive in the Now.” –Eckhart Tolle

The limbo time between familiar and unfamiliar can be difficult. For example, transitioning from the high-pressure structure of a job or demanding boss to the slower, relaxed space in between jobs where no one knows or cares about how much you accomplish except you; or moving locations when routines and familiar faces disappear and haven’t yet been replaced by new ones. Great opportunities lie within the transitional limbo to practice refining your relationships between your inner and outer self – all your parts! Today’s group opened up many new perspectives, metaphors and curious questions around this topic – many takeaways!

  • What does GREAT look like for me right now?
Image Beijing China Financial District with words Beijing China Thursdays in July 2019 Coffeeshop Coaching

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Join me at Cafe Flat White Tayuan DRC, Beijing China for my next Coffeeshop Group Coachings every Thursday in July! They’re free! No need to sign up, just show up! 

  • 2x Thursday 04, & 11 July 2019 at 2:00pm and again at 6:00pm
    Café Flat White 6-2-12, Tayuan Diplomatic Residence Compound
    (Gate pass registration with a form of ID)
    No. 1 Xindong Road, Chaoyang District, Beijing, China, 100600
    北京市朝阳区新東路1号院塔园外交公寓6-2-12. 郵編100600

Life is meant for awesome adventures, good friends, great coaches, and LOTS of coffee! – Melody Taylor-Fliege

Coffeeshop coaching is confidential, while using a more relaxed and informal platform that being lost in a crowded room can provide. We meet over a cup of coffee or tea, and although this isn’t corporate coaching, don’t be fooled into believing that the depth and amount of change to be achieved is any less. This style of coaching is just as committed as any other form of coaching just experienced in a more gentle and relaxed way of coaching support, encouragement and none-judgmental accountability. These group coachings usually last 60-90 minutes and they are FREE!

If you are struggling with big changes in your life, need to make a decision, or just need to be heard, coffeeshop coaching can be the perfect platform for you.

Coaching is a productive relationship enabling YOU to:

  • Creatively explore solutions
  • Prevent self-sabotage
  • Take actions that move YOU forward
  • Achieve YOUR goals
  • Attain clarity in what YOU want

Café Flat White 北京市朝阳区新東路1号院塔园外交公寓6-2-12. 郵編100600

Image of Solana Shopping Center Beijing China with words Tuesdays in July 2019 Coffeeshop Coaching

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Join me at Solana Starbucks Facing Chaoyang Park, Beijing China for my next Coffeeshop Group Coachings every Tuesday in July! They’re free! No need to sign up, just show up!

  • 1x Tuesday 02, 09 July 2019 at 2:00pm
    Starbucks Coffee Shop at Solana Shopping Center by the Eros Water Fountain facing Chaoyang Park (not the Main Entrance Starbucks)
    No.6 Courtyard-11 Chaoyang Park Rd, Chaoyang District, Beijing 100125, China (North-western Lake Side of Chaoyang Park)
    (星巴克)北京市朝阳区朝阳公园路6号(朝阳公园西北岸边)

Life is meant for awesome adventures, good friends, great coaches, and LOTS of coffee! – Melody Taylor-Fliege

Coffeeshop coaching is confidential, while using a more relaxed and informal platform that being lost in a crowded room can provide. We meet over a cup of coffee or tea, and although this isn’t corporate coaching, don’t be fooled into believing that the depth and amount of change to be achieved is any less. This style of coaching is just as committed as any other form of coaching just experienced in a more gentle and relaxed way of coaching support, encouragement and none-judgmental accountability. These group coachings usually last 60-90 minutes and they are FREE!

If you are struggling with big changes in your life, need to make a decision, or just need to be heard, coffeeshop coaching can be the perfect platform for you.

Coaching is a productive relationship enabling YOU to:

  • Creatively explore solutions
  • Prevent self-sabotage
  • Take actions that move YOU forward
  • Achieve YOUR goals
  • Attain clarity in what YOU want

Solana Starbucks Courtyard-11 (星巴克)北京市朝阳区朝阳公园路6号(朝阳公园西北岸边)

Image Beijing China Financial District with words Takeaway From Beijing China Thursday 27 June 2019 Coffeeshop Coaching

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Today’s takeaway from Free Coffeeshop Group Coaching – Beijing, China – 27 June 2019 is:

“One of the most important things a person can do in their life is to take in new information and change the way they think.”—Anon

Coaching can help you create tools to help you do more every day than you can singlehandedly in your regular life. It’s all about strengthening your adaptability skills to maneuver change. Getting clarity of your vision and values to set a more authentic course of action in your life; changing perspectives to create new interpretations of old self-dialog are self-empowering. Coaching is about helping you help yourself. An old way of looking at problems might not lead you to new solutions.

  • If you want new solutions, why not try a different perspective?
Image Beijing China Solana and Chaoyang Park with words Takeaway from Beijing China Tuesday 25 June 2019 Coffeeshop Coaching

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Today’s takeaway from Free Coffeeshop Group Coaching – Beijing, China – 25 June 2019 is:

“The human mind once stretched by a new idea never goes back to its original dimensions.” Oliver Wendell Holmes

Sometimes distancing yourself from an issue, you are facing can help stop a seemingly endless cycle of feeling stuck. Using a piece of paper or a notebook to brainstorm can help to place the problem in front of you – outside of you. Using as many senses as you can to write, see, speak out loud, hear what you are saying about the problem brings it out of the vicious cycles of your thinking. It slows it down and allows you to process, add, subtract, and rearrange your thoughts on paper. It gives space for new information. It helps you get curious. Looking for something new, something not seen before opens you up and unlocks “one-possibility thinking.” Using a piece of paper to brainstorm your current issue, ask yourself:

  • What component or role does this issue play in the grand cycle of my life?
  • What is it trying to teach me?
  • How can I better embrace my feelings around this issue?