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“The man who asks a question is a fool for a minute, the man who does not ask is a fool for life.”

–Confucius

Questions are a quintessential characteristic of coaching! Coaching is a curious process of self-growth and expansion. A powerful question is one that makes a person go Ahha… ! Another power lies in the silence following a compelling question, during which a journey unfolds in the mind and body of the one searching for understanding. The quest for answers is a crucial element of the questioning process for it ignites vision, hope, and possibility that leads to forward action.

  • What would the famous Chinese philosopher and teacher Confucius say about what you’re currently facing?
  • “He who knows all the answers has not been asked all the questions.” –Confucius, What is one more question you can ask yourself right now?
Image Beijing China Financial District with words Takeaway From Beijing China Thursday 20 June 2019 Coffeeshop Coaching

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Today’s takeaway from Free Coffeeshop Group Coaching – Beijing, China – 20 June 2019 is:

“If you can’t change your circumstances, change your perspective.” Author Unknown

If you’re not enough, what are you? Enough for what? What is enough? Life is full of alternatives to the structures you have relied upon for your stability. Could feeling less-than simply be a signal you should apply new thinking to a situation? So take a look at how far you’ve come and find an alternative perspective to look at the current situation. Then get curious. Curiosity brings answers that help you get back on track of what is important.

  • The next time you’re not feeling enough ask yourself, who’s standards am I applying here?
Image Beijing China Solana and Chaoyang Park with words Takeaway from Beijing China Tuesday 18 June 2019 Coffeeshop Coaching

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Today’s takeaway from Free Coffeeshop Group Coaching – Beijing, China – 18 June 2019 is:

“Stop beating yourself up. You are a work in progress; which means you get there a little at a time, not all at once.” –Author Unknown

We each have a brain and life experiences that can be very useful in decision-making. Sometimes we overthink because our mind likes to think it has all the answers although it doesn’t. Creativity is a clever tool to access intuitive heart compassion leading us to better decisions that serve the greater good. We cannot notice the needs of others, from a state of anxiety, rushing, and fear. Intuitive listening and action lead us to more constructive contribution in all areas of our life. Take a moment to breath down out of your head and into your heart and observe.

  • Can you notice the difference between the pace you have set for yourself and the natural world flow of things?
Image Beijing China Financial District with words Takeaway From Beijing China Thursday 13 June 2019 Coffeeshop Coaching

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Today’s takeaway from Free Coffeeshop Group Coaching – Beijing, China – 13 June 2019 is:

“We talked about everything, yet we talked about nothing, and everybody walked away with something.” –Nicole Liu

Cultural diversity was at the heart of today’s group. Listening with a sense of curiosity helps create a learning mindset to bridge the gap between what’s different and what’s similar across cultures. Diversity is not always easy, but it surrounds us and enriches our lives.

  • How are you embracing cultural diversity?
Image Beijing China Solana and Chaoyang Park with words Takeaway from Beijing China Tuesday 11 June 2019 Coffeeshop Coaching

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Today’s takeaway from Free Coffeeshop Group Coaching – Beijing, China – 11 June 2019 is:

“Your dream doesn’t have an expiration date. Take a deep breath and try again.” – Author KT Witten

Decisions can be challenging to make, and some more difficult than others. Changes always tempt our patients. Chaos brings an opportunity to expand our current perception. We cannot perceive all that we are capable of until our current reality is somehow fragmented through a new perspective. A new perspective provides a new lens to look through and adjust our way of thinking about any problem.

  • What other perspective is possible for you today?
Image Beijing China Financial District with words Takeaway From Beijing China Thursday 06 June 2019 Coffeeshop Coaching

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Today’s takeaway from Free Coffeeshop Group Coaching – Beijing, China – 06 June 2019 is:

““You can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something – your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. This approach has never let me down, and it has made all the difference in my life.” –Steve Jobs

Life is a game of connecting the dots! In moments when you look back at where you started and which choices brought you to this moment, there is an awareness expressed in the imagery created by connecting the dots (each decision). Some images can be quite sobering, even enlightening and others are empowering!

  • At this moment, what is life knocking on your door and asking you to step up to?
  • What’s at risk?
  • Is it coming from a place of fear or love?
Image Beijing China Solana and Chaoyang Park with words Takeaway from Beijing China Tuesday 04 June 2019 Coffeeshop Coaching

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Today’s takeaway from Free Coffeeshop Group Coaching – Beijing, China – 04 June 2019 is:

“When you face difficult times, know that challenges are not sent to destroy you. They’re sent to promote, increase and strengthen you.” –Anonymous

Trying to be someone you are not can be exhausting. It eventually wears out and gets in the way of contributing effectively in the world. You need to change. You have to grow. Taking risks can be challenging. Yet in the challenge lie the answers that help you choose the next step. When you courageously shed the protective layer defending your heart and allow your inner light to illuminate the way; you walk with integrity. Your life is precious, and you get to choose how you use this life’s energy.

  • A question to ask yourself anytime: How am I showing myself more love right now?

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Join me at Cafe Flat White Tayuan DRC, Beijing China for my next Coffeeshop Group Coachings every Thursday in June! They’re free! No need to sign up, just show up! 

  • 2x Thursday 06, 13, 20, 27 June 2019 at 2:00pm and again at 6:00pm
    Café Flat White 6-2-12, Tayuan Diplomatic Residence Compound
    (Gate pass registration with a form of ID)
    No. 1 Xindong Road, Chaoyang District, Beijing, China, 100600
    北京市朝阳区新東路1号院塔园外交公寓6-2-12. 郵編100600

Life is meant for awesome adventures, good friends, great coaches, and LOTS of coffee! – Melody Taylor-Fliege

Coffeeshop coaching is confidential, while using a more relaxed and informal platform that being lost in a crowded room can provide. We meet over a cup of coffee or tea, and although this isn’t corporate coaching, don’t be fooled into believing that the depth and amount of change to be achieved is any less. This style of coaching is just as committed as any other form of coaching just experienced in a more gentle and relaxed way of coaching support, encouragement and none-judgmental accountability. These group coachings usually last 60-90 minutes and they are FREE!

If you are struggling with big changes in your life, need to make a decision, or just need to be heard, coffeeshop coaching can be the perfect platform for you.

Coaching is a productive relationship enabling YOU to:

  • Creatively explore solutions
  • Prevent self-sabotage
  • Take actions that move YOU forward
  • Achieve YOUR goals
  • Attain clarity in what YOU want

Café Flat White 北京市朝阳区新東路1号院塔园外交公寓6-2-12. 郵編100600

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Join me at Solana Starbucks Facing Chaoyang Park, Beijing China for my next Coffeeshop Group Coachings every Tuesday in June! They’re free! No need to sign up, just show up!

  • 1x Tuesday 04, 11, 18, 25 June 2019 at 2:00pm
    Starbucks Coffee Shop at Solana Shopping Center by the Eros Water Fountain facing Chaoyang Park (not the Main Entrance Starbucks)
    No.6 Courtyard-11 Chaoyang Park Rd, Chaoyang District, Beijing 100125, China (North-western Lake Side of Chaoyang Park)
    (星巴克)北京市朝阳区朝阳公园路6号(朝阳公园西北岸边)

Life is meant for awesome adventures, good friends, great coaches, and LOTS of coffee! – Melody Taylor-Fliege

Coffeeshop coaching is confidential, while using a more relaxed and informal platform that being lost in a crowded room can provide. We meet over a cup of coffee or tea, and although this isn’t corporate coaching, don’t be fooled into believing that the depth and amount of change to be achieved is any less. This style of coaching is just as committed as any other form of coaching just experienced in a more gentle and relaxed way of coaching support, encouragement and none-judgmental accountability. These group coachings usually last 60-90 minutes and they are FREE!

If you are struggling with big changes in your life, need to make a decision, or just need to be heard, coffeeshop coaching can be the perfect platform for you.

Coaching is a productive relationship enabling YOU to:

  • Creatively explore solutions
  • Prevent self-sabotage
  • Take actions that move YOU forward
  • Achieve YOUR goals
  • Attain clarity in what YOU want

Solana Starbucks Courtyard-11 (星巴克)北京市朝阳区朝阳公园路6号(朝阳公园西北岸边)

Image of Female Executive controlling a string puppet of herself. With quote, "The only way to predict the future is to create it." - Peter Drucker.

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“The only way to predict the future is to create it.”

–Peter Drucker–

External circumstances provide a platform against which we find integrity. Integrity comes from internal clarity, not external events. Nothing outside of you will ever make you feel safe enough, happy enough, fulfilled enough. The balance comes internally by taking responsibility for your choices and being comfortable in your own skin regardless of external circumstances. Knowing who, when, and what to give your time and energy to is learned through constant practice of managing your moments of feeling somehow not enough—your insecurities! The integral wisdom is recognizing the difference of not being able to see beyond your own selfish wants and needs and appreciating that you can not love and care for others more than you genuinely love and care for yourself. Pressurizing others into giving you more of what you think you need only compounds the insecure feeling of lack. When you focus on being, doing, and giving what you feel is lacking, you open the gate of receiving through giving. The pressure is then shifted from external to internal, where true happiness and fulfillment exist. Action taken from this inner place of truth creates integrity in the expression of who you are through your contributions to the world.

  • How are you taking accountability for your role in your life?
  • When was the last time you practiced managing a feeling of insecurity?
  • What did you discover?